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April 4, 2008

Sexual Predators vs Parents 101 – Part 2

Since posting Sexual Predators vs Parents 101, I’ve had numerous emails and chats with people offering their opinions and points of view.

One of the best conversations regarding the posting was with a good friend, who is the father of a young boy; he also has worked around many child molesters in the course of his job.

While he agrees that I made several valid points with my initial post, he brought up an angle that I did not think about as I was posting the first time.

In his 14 years of experience working around child molesters, he has found that most have nothing more to say about it than it feels “right and normal” to them. While they understand that society views the interaction of an adult with a minor to be wrong, many will say differently when on film, television or in other media, hoping that this might bring them leniency, even though they feel as strongly about it being right, as any man would feel it’s right to have sex with his wife.

He’s also believes that a child molester can not be re-habilitated. As he pointed out, they have chemically castrated many a sexual predator only to have that person molest again. Chemical castration does not fix the urge that is sent from the brain, it only takes away the ability to have the penis function.

While I compared rehabilitation to being that of an addiction, he pointed out, that if it was an addiction than we could rehabilitate people to be a sexual orientation that we wished them to be. Society could no more rehabilitate him, a straight man, into being a homosexual than they can rehabilitate a child molester into fitting what society would deem to be acceptable.

This being said, he’s of the opinion that child molesters should not be allowed around, near or close to a child. That this offense is suitable for the death penalty, and yes I know this will upset many people, but this is his opinion and I value other people’s point of view on touchy subject matters.

His reasoning behind his feeling that this crime is suitable for such a drastic punishment is that many children who have suffered through child molestation, have life long issues and problems. Quite often they have issues with the law, as they turn to alternate and illegal means to mask the pain they carry. When I brought up the point that it’s often said that most who molest children were often times molested themselves as children, which to me could mean that it’s a learned behavior. He brought up another valid point. Not all children who are molested become child molesters, those who are need serious therapy to help them. It’s up to the individual to recognize certain bad feelings they may have and get help before they act upon them.

So my question to him was this, in essence some might be able to be rehabilitated if they are of the persuasion of being a victim of child molestation verses someone who is chemically wired that way?

His answer was, No, some of the children whom are victimized can be helped through treatment, and molesters themselves, he believes cannot be helped as they think it feels right. He feels that a child molester might feel love from it, power, or whatever they derive from the action of molesting. If one has been molested, and turns around to themselves molest, it’s his belief that it is too late to change their way of thinking. Help needed to come way before for those who are a victim of molestation and go on to molest children themselves.

He also believes that many molesters think of themselves as victims of the beliefs that society holds on what is right and wrong. He can’t imagine that any molester would think that molestation is legal, and knowing it’s illegal, they must know and understand that society finds it repulsive, so why would they molest unless they are driven by it feeling right in their own minds.

This conversation brought to light as I stated before an angle that I had not considered in regards to the rehabilitation of child molesters and those who prey on the young, be they girls or boys. I value his thoughts, opinions and experiences, on this subject matter, as both a father of a young boy and that as a professional who deals with those unsavory souls who most of polite society would not want cross paths with.


*please note that much of what was written came from my friend CEC during the course of our conversation and I took the liberty of using statements made by him during the course of our chat. He will be previewing this blog prior to my posting it for accuracy on his thoughts and opinions. ~Kat*

Filed under: Life,Rants by Kat at 12:09 am

April 3, 2008 is undergoing some needed updates with our software and assorted items. You might notice that there are a few flaws in past posts, I will be going back to fix them as I have time to do so.

Please bear with me while I continue to bring you fun, exciting and thought provoking postings. You are welcome to use each posts comment section, email or snail mail me with your thoughts on the various items I’ve posted about.

Thank you for your patience and continued reading!


Filed under: Life,Politics by Kat at 6:53 pm

Why Kids In The USA Are Failing

[In response to a recent message board posting suggesting that the high school drop out rate has approached 30%, and that in some parts of the U.S., as many as 1 in every 2 students do not graduate high school.]

Hmmmmmmm…..I couldn’t possibly understand why kids in this country aren’t doing well….I mean, they have all the important stuff in their lives….

– Cell phones for constant blathering and text messaging where proper English is basically taboo.

– Constant social reinforcement suggesting that if at first you don’t succeed, you should either just quit, sue someone because it’s obviously their fault for your failures in life, or finally just get a gun and blast away.

– Parents that would much rather fight the system when it actually forces their kids into proper behavior, because their ‘precious little angels’ are too delicate and special to attend class, be on time, act with some degree of discipline, or God forbid…study.

– Computers that provide spell check, grammar check, and calculators, so the three “R’s” are eroded even further. (for those that forgot: Reading WRiting, and ARithmetic)

– Corporate America, throug h the constant barrage of imagery and sound (e.g. MTV, SpikeTV, E!, MGM Studios, Bruckheimer Films, etc., etc., ad infinitum) that grinds it into their melons that somehow it’s better to look good (clothing, shoes, cars, blah, blah, blah), or to act tough (e.g. UFC, SpikeTV, WWE, R rated movies they’re not supposed to even be able to see until they’ve nearly completed school anyway, but God bless those parents and movie theaters that watch out for their well being, etc.), than to actually have a lucid thought pass through one’s head.

– The irresponsibility of society to allow children to ‘act’ like grown ups before their time. The ridiculous social structuring that suggests that a child of 5 should know what he wants to be in life, instead of just wanting to play with his Legos. This, paired with the instantaneous judgement of society that if you’re not an instant success, you should be discarded as so much flotsam.

– Teachers that have been reigned in so much, and threatened with litigation so much that they have no vested interest in getting little Bobby to pass his state administered exams, even though the passing scores have been politically reduced throughout the years to adapt to Bobby’s shortcomings (even though Bobby isn’t truly the one at fault).

– Curriculums that have been dumbed down so that the children of this country can pass regardless of what chemically induced stupor they’re in.

– School Districts that have been sued into oblivion by self-indulgent parents that think a lawsuit is their free ticket through life, so much so that these districts can’t financially provide a good education anymore, and are worn down enough that they really don’t care if they do anymore anyway.

– Medical professionals that would much rather prescribe some sort of mood altering, or behavior modifying medication, than to actually sit down and figure out if the child actually HAS a medical issue, or if he’s just a screwup due to poor parenting, and most of the reasons listed above. This, paired with their need to make the payments on their new Porsche, so the ad hoc prescription of these drugs, and the complete sell out to large pharmaceutical companies in exchange for their ethics and good medical practices, can continue unabated.

– Elected officials that have more of an interest in their own pockets, their cronies, and the protection of their own class, than ANYthing having to do with children’s education, upbringing, or social formation. Bush was right, no child will be left behind….as they’re not being taught to go anywhere in the first place.

Hell, with all that going for them, I’d think they’d all be in Harvard/Yale/Stanford/etc. (pick your own overpriced example of higher education).

Don’t get me wrong…I enjoy UFC, movies, and all that crap right along with the rest of them…BUT, I’m an adult now, and I can make my own decisions on what to do, what to watch, etc. My formative years are over, and due to a strict upbringing, a schooling system that hadn’t been degraded into short bus material, and the lack of constant media exposure to socially unacceptable behavior, I figured out how to think, and to do for myself. For the most part, my mom raised me right, my schools educated me properly, and society hadn’t turned into the conglomeration of retards that it has today.

Oh, and for those of you that are offended by anything I have had to say? You can be offended and get over it…I’m not retracting anything I’ve said here. I’ve not singled any one parent out, nor any individual child, school, nor other person. So, since I’ve been fairly general, you can just feel generally offended, and move on with your cranky butt.

*Authored by Tim, posted by Kat… gotta love it when the man is on a rant!
Filed under: Life,Rants by Kat at 7:36 am
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